New year, new me. I’m not making any promises, but this year I am going to TRY to make some positive changes in my life, which will hopefully have a positive effect on the whole of the family. I’ve finally forked out more than £12 and bought proper, not-from-a-supermarket trainers, which are going to make me move at a faster rate, more often, and have remarkable mood-improving side-effects. I’m also planning to drink more water. Apparently water is a miraculous cure for everything, but for some reason it often never occurs to me to drink anything at all during the day, so even one small glass in the morning will be an improvement. My final self-improvement resolution is to stop dipping into the kids crisps and sweets stash in our kitchen. I have a penchant for Haribo, and a yearning for Quavers. These desires must be repressed or I shall forever be a fat lump.
The most important thing I’m going to do though, is something I’ve stolen from a social media post that went viral at the end of 2017. In it, the female author spoke about a revelation she had whilst watching a US TV show that sounded something like Junior Masterchef. She realised that the skilled and inventive kids doing the cooking, chopping, slicing and mixing on the show could only do so because someone had said ‘yes’ when they had asked to try something. We’ve all had that moment with kids where they ask to ‘help’ with the cooking or baking or cleaning, and we say ‘maybe later’ or ‘next time, I promise’, because we can’t bear the thought of eggs and flour all over the place, or soap suds all over the floor. But if we say ‘yes’ and let them try things, with practice they’ll not make so much mess, their confidence and skill levels will grow, and maybe, just maybe, they’ll get good at stuff, and find a passion for cooking, painting, gardening… maybe even ironing!
So this year, in our house, there will be more of saying yes. Encouragement. Empowerment. Guidance. Practice. And maybe by this time next year we’ll have a budding Nigella preparing some of our meals!